Cost Absorption
Take → Hold → Return
Support is defined by where the cost lands.
Orientation
Cost, Support, Burden Transfer, Capacity, Distortion
If you take the cost, you own the consequence.
What Cost Absorption Is
Cost absorption is taking on burden so movement can occur.
It is not kindness.
It is not generosity.
It is not neutral.
It is a structural move.
Something becomes easier.
Because you made something else heavier.
The Hidden Trade
When you absorb cost:
- The task becomes lighter for them
- The system becomes heavier for you
This looks like support.
Until it repeats.
Pattern
Short-term movement → long-term dependency
If the same cost keeps returning to you,
you are not supporting.
You are locking the system.
Valid Absorption
Cost absorption is valid when:
- It creates immediate access
- It reduces overwhelm
- It enables first movement
And most importantly:
it does not stay with you.
Rule
Absorb → stabilize → return
If you cannot return the cost,
you should not have taken it.
Invalid Absorption
This is where most systems break.
- Repeated prompting
- Carrying initiation
- Finishing tasks for them
- Maintaining regulation for them
These feel helpful.
They are not.
They shift the burden permanently.
The learner moves less.
You move more.
The system appears functional.
Capacity quietly dies.
Failure Mode
If it works because you are carrying it, it is already broken.
Operator Move
Before you help, ask:
- Who is paying right now?
- Who should be paying?
- What happens if I take this cost?
Then decide deliberately.
Not automatically.
Not emotionally.
Not under pressure.
If you take it —
take it cleanly.
And give it back.
Compression
Cost always lands.
If you absorb it, you own it.
If it stays with you, the system will depend on you.
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This page clarifies what support actually costs.