Repair — Practice
Turn rupture into repair fast, with dignity intact. Temperature down → boundary clear → next right step visible.
Sequence (IEBN)
- [bomb]Impact|Describe what happened without blame (“The pencil flew and hit the wall.”)[/bomb]
- [bomb]Empathize|Name effort/feeling (“That was a big feeling—thanks for telling me.”)[/bomb]
- [bomb]Boundary|State the limit (“Throwing is not safe here.”)[/bomb]
- [bomb]Next step|Offer smallest viable re‑entry (“Let’s start with one line at the side table.”)[/bomb]
Micro‑scripts
Temperature Drop
[bomb]Neutral mirror|“Here’s what I saw…” (no motive guesses)[/bomb]
Boundary + Dignity
[bomb]Limit without shame|“Feelings allowed. Harm isn’t.”[/bomb]
Bridge Back
[bomb]Show the path|“Level 1: 10‑seconds; Level 2: one paragraph. You choose.”[/bomb]
Guardrails
- [bomb]No mind‑reading|Observe patterns; don’t assign motives[/bomb]
- [bomb]Proportionality|Support matches need; remove when control returns[/bomb]
- [bomb]Reset is allowed|A dignified reset preserves future flux[/bomb]
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