Authority without humiliation; standards intact; non‑aggressive / non‑submissive posture.

• Brush: normalize the state; smallest viable start.
• Repair: impact → empathize → boundary → next right step.
• Invite: bounded choices (A/B; sketch/words; near me/over there).
• Govern: “Feelings allowed. Harm isn’t. We repair, then re‑enter.”

Mind = Shi (posture). Prevents over‑extension; action is authorized only when nəc̓aʔmat is ON by outcomes.

[bomb]Bounded start|“A or B to begin—your call.”[/bomb]
• [bomb]Error→option|“Good—now we have two ways forward.”[/bomb]